A good self-image doesn’t follow success – it precedes it, as Robert L. Shook says in his book Winning Images. Someone saddled with a poor self-image may fool some people some of the time, but eventually they’ll fail, unless they comes to grips with their basic self-image.
Having confidence means you believe in yourself; you trust your own judgment and resourcefulness. Self-confidence is knowing that you have the wherewithal to function reasonably well in the world.
When your need to compete, and be superior to someone else, gets in the way of the best possible outcome for both of you – competition becomes a liability. I’m talking about the kind of person who always needs to be “one up” on other people.
Many employers believe that money is the most effective instrument for motivating employees. The problem is that this method gets expensive and doesn’t work as well as positive, non-monetary motivators. There are other positive motivators that excite many employees even more than money.
The concept of adaptability, as developed by Dr. Michael O’Connor, co-author of The Platinum Rule®, is a two-part process: flexibility and versatility.
If, as someone once said, tact is the radar of the mind, then practicing DISC theory can be a valuable tune-up of your antenna.
For many of us, talking can come pretty easy especially when it’s about something we’re interested in. But effective listening? That’s another story.
I believe there are two ways to negotiate: manipulatively and collaboratively. You could call it “win‑win” versus “win‑lose.”